The question most frequently asked by the general public is “What can I do to help the troops? Where do I go to find a place I can contribute?”

As I mention in the book, Mom’s Field Guide: What You Need to Know to Make it Through Your Loved One’s Military Deployment, it is no longer possible to address mail to “any servicemember.” It is still possible though to support the troops and their families. Ask your friends and acquaintances. Ask your local churches and community organizations. Ask at your local National Guard Armory. Search online for “support the troops.” Or hook up with one of the many organizations I mention in the book. Just a few of these are www.booksforsoldiers.com, www.sgtsmom.com, and more. Each one of these contains links that will lead you on to other support groups. It’s not hard to find a way to contribute once you start to look.

The latest one I’ve run across, and a really easy and simple thing to do is at www.letssaythanks.com. Check it out. You go there and sign a card to send to a soldier. You can do this every day. It costs nothing, but you know you touched a life that might be in need of a kind thought. You choose your card, choose your message or type in one of your own, and an actual postcard is mailed to a soldier–signed by you with your hometown and name on it. It’s easy, it’s free, and it’s supportive. You see how easy this can be?

Don’t forget to ask friends and acquaintances for the names of soldiers and a list of their needs. Get an address and send a package. You will brighten the day of someone who is doing a dangerous, hot, dirty, and often thankless job. And you’ll feel so good about yourself. I can’t even begin to tell you.

–Sandy Doell

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May 10th, 2009 by Terri Barnes in Stars and Stripes column Spouse Calls

Happy Mother’s Day! Whether you’re serving overseas, home with the kids while your husband is deployed, or just maintaining normalcy for your military household, I hope that all you moms out there are receiving some warm fuzzies of appreciation today.

The Mother’s Day edition of the Spouse Calls column is all about the mothers of active duty members. Read it here.

One of the moms who contributed advice for this column was Sandy Doell, an Army mom-turned-author. Her book “Mom’s Field Guide,” offers practical advice, mostly for surviving a son or daughter’s deployment.

“Parents need to be extremely flexible during deployment,” said Sandy, noting the changes happening in your parent/child relationship.

“In addition to watching your child leave home for a dangerous location, you yourself are going through some changes: empty nest syndrome, menopause, and other changes associated with midlife. The parents I know who managed this time the best did positive productive things for themselves.”

Attention to one’s own personal development has benefits to parent and child, she said. There is more to a person than parenthood, and there should be more to a relationship with an adult child than caretaking and worry making.

“You don’t want him to call you and hang up thinking how hard it is to talk to you because you are so worried about him,” Sandy said. “You want him to hang up the phone and turn to his buddy and say something like, ‘Wow, my mom just got an A on her first college paper.’”

Sandy’s book is available in print or as an e-book at

http://www.momsfieldguide.com/

More resources for the parents of military members:

• http://somesoldiersmom.blogspot.com/
• http://www.proudarmyparents.com/
• http://www.goarmyparents.com/
• http://www.navy-parents.com/bb/index.php
• http://www.usmcparents.com/forum/default_group.asp
• http://www.navyformoms.com/group/navyparents
• http://www.militarymoms.net/
• http://groups.yahoo.com/group/airforcemomsanddads2/

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